WHAT YOUR BRIDE WANTS TO HEAR IN YOUR GROOM’S SPEECH
You popped the question, the date is now set, the venue booked, invitations are being printed, the stag weekend is in hand. Just that minor matter of a groom’s speech still to write…
You’re not at all anxious, but why is your fiance? We’ve got the experts at Great Speech Writing to hand over their top tips on how to keep her happy on the big day…
First and formost.......................Big up the bride……..
Although it’s good practice to mention the best man and your ushers, and make a bit of fun at them at their expense, always remember that your wedding day is about your bond with your bride, not your best mates.
What YOUR bride WANTS to hear!
Thank your new in-laws.
As a rule of thumb in wedding etiquette, the father of the bride is usually the first to receive acknowledgment. Let him know how much you respect him and thank him for giving his blessing to have his daughter's hand in marriage. Next, thank the bride’s mother for her wedding planning and support and for her success in raising such a wonderful person—who happens to be the woman you love!
Next in line to thank are your parents. As you turn to your mom and dad, tell them how much you love and appreciate them for giving you guidance throughout your life. Let them know how happy you are that they’re present to share with you in this precious moment, and how you look forward to them being there to witness many milestones as you grow as a couple. After you’ve saluted both sets of parents, your groom’s speech should highlight the wedding party and other special guests.
You can use this moment to recount funny stories, special memories and the sort. Remember, your families are present, so it might be a good idea to leave out any distasteful jokes or not reveal any moments that might embarrass you, or worse, your bride.
Next up is the best man. After all, he’s your best man for a reason; take this time to tell him why. Explain how much his friendship means to you and why you chose him to serve in that important role. You can tell a funny story here as well, but remember, be tactful, as to not make anyone feel uncomfortable at the mention of a tasteless remark.
If your bride chooses not to speak at the wedding, she probably won’t get the chance to thank her parents publicly for all they’ve done in helping to organize the big day, and indeed for all the help, love and support provided over the years. So it’s down to you to do it for her – and she’ll love you for it.
She’s your wife – don’t be shy mentioning it!
Nothing gets more of heart-warming cheer than the line “my wife and I…”. I agree it’s predictable and a little bit cheesy, but the novelty of hearing it for the first time never fails to make a new bride smile, or indeed every one of your guests.
Keep it original
Using the occasional predictable phrase, as above, is fine, but don’t get too reliant on these one-liners, or your speech could easily sound like an internet cut and paste job. Your new bride wants you to talk about her, so be creative and keep it personal.
Mention her looks
Dazzling, stunning, beautiful – however you wish to say it, make sure you comment on her appearance, and in a positive way. The expensive dress, designer jewelry, trips to the hairdressers, manicures and facials count for something!
Remember this is a celebration of love
It isn’t your chance to deliver a 10 minute comedy stand-up routine. So try to combine your witty one-liners with a good dose of sincerity. Why did you ask her to marry you? What is it about her that you adore? How has your life changed (for the better!) since you met her? Which of your bad habits does she have to live with?
Delete all stories of ex-girlfriends
However ‘understand’ your new wife is about your past, there’s a time and a place for mentioning the exes, and the groom’s speech isn’t one of them.
Direct your speech to her
Although you’re giving a speech to, what is often, a large number of people, you don’t always have to talk to the room. It can be far more meaningful and personal if, when you’re talking about your wife, you actually speak to and make eye contact with her. But remember to keep projecting your voice. Your wife will want the guests to hear what you have to say about her, even if you’re not addressing them.